The Redditors have spoken.
A few weeks ago, I found myself on Reddit looking at online dating stuff and saw that there was actually a lot of really great stories, advice, and experiences out there. But I got really annoyed jumping from page to page.
So what was the logical next step?
Compose a massive compilation of all my favorite posts for you to enjoy with ease.
I think this is really cool because along with the Redditors sharing their online dating success stories (as well as their online dating horror stories)…
They have also shared with us their online dating experiences that have given us answers to our most pressing online dating questions, such as:
Does online dating work, Reddit?
What are the best online dating sites, Reddit?
What are the best online dating apps, Reddit?
Why is online dating so hard for guys, Reddit?
And of course…
Is online dating worth it, Reddit? Should I put forth thy effort to court a fine human into my grips of love? And make thee mine?
Ok… the last one was my own personal question.
But the best part is, we’ve not only been given answers to the questions above, but also been gifted with Reddit’s best online dating tips and advice as well.
To say the least, we’ve been blessed.
And we thank you, Reddit.
So let’s jump in.
Reddit’s Online Dating Horror Stories
When preparing this article I was amused to find that one of the most searched for phrases surrounding Reddit’s online dating scene was “online dating horror stories reddit”. Which I thought would be wildly entertaining to look into. And I wasn’t disappointed.
“Online dating horror stories reddit” was more searched than any other term regarding successes, advice, or tips. So I wanted to start here first, with the worst of the worst.
So without further adieu…
Here are my favorite Reddit online dating horror stories. This first one literally had me LOLing.
“59 points·5 years ago·edited 5 years ago
Long, but I got this, courtesy of OkCupid: I was 24 and, from school, had been messaging this cute girl who could actually hold a conversation really well so after I got home in December we decide to meet up.
7:00pm-Show up at her place, she isn’t 120 lbs heavier than her picture, doesn’t have a beard or Adam’s apple, and hasn’t ax murdered me yet. Chemistry is great and we actually start making out before I pull out of my parking space. So far so good, OKcupid, you da bomb.
7:15-In the car, things are fine, she’s talking a lot about her modeling job, which is cool, just finished finals in med school, anything that isn’t an enzyme or nerve circuit is welcome.
7:30-Arrive at ice rink and race each other inside, this is fun, literally sprint in to see who can get ice skates first
7:35-Inside and she’s still going about her local modeling career and all the free things the vendors and designers give her. Thrifty, cool. She hasn’t asked anything about me but whatever, she’s cute and I don’t think she has a penis.
8:45-Been skating for a while, I now know about the process of applying “runway makeup”, the time constraints and approximations of changing outfits depending on the number of pieces, and how to adjust hip tilt and swing during a catwalk if your clothing piece is top heavy vs has a long train. I now know every cost approximation of at least 12 different clothing pieces from 3 designers I have never heard of.
8:50-She can’t talk if she’s eating, I suggest we get food. I don’t know the area so she inquires the first thing about me of the night. “Yes, I do like Mexican”. Personal thought: Mexican, like tacos, should be casual and nice for a first date
9:00-We arrive at the place. This is not Taco Bell or Chipotle. 40ft high wooden vaulted ceilings with hanging sheer fabric for ambiance and the swankiest fucking bar I’ve never seen, I read “Cristal” on the neck of the display bottles propped about…isn’t that the shit rappers sing about?
9:03-Sitting down. She’s been bragging for a bit, that despite being a model, she has never done cocaine. Waitress gives me a warm, moist, hand towel to wipe off my hands as I sit down. I’m wondering if I’m in a strange music video. Fuck, the prices are steep, I’ll just have a soda and a salad. She knows everything on the menu by name and what it should be paired with, she’s been here a few times, I wonder if with other guys.
9:30-I would really like some cocaine.
10:20-Michael Kors ain’t got shit on me for knowledge of the fashion industry.
10:30-I have no idea what she ordered but the bill is $105 plus tip. She asks if we should go and I say “yes”, she makes no attempt to pull out her wallet so I bite the tab, trying to conceal my pissed-ness. Should have ordered more than one drink.
10:40-Not too impressed with the date but I walk her to the door. She asks if I want to come in, I’m not used to dating after two long relationships but I know this is a good sign and I get excited and accept…so in we go.
10:41-I meet her mother, in a bathrobe, completely unfazed by my presence. She asks if I know how to fix a light socket.
10:47-Light socket is fixed.
10:50-In her room, score! I’ve seen this in movies before.
11:10-She has taken me through every lotion and perfume and tin of makeup and brush on her vanity and told me the brand, the list price, and how much she actually got it for.
11:20-She is almost finished telling me the brand, location of purchase, and price of every shirt, skirt, pair of pants, and jacket in her closet. She is upset that her friend “stole” a bracelet from her 2 weeks ago, she wonders if I would help her look for it. Haven’t gotten laid in a long time, “yes”.
11:35-She is literally crying, with tears down her cheeks, because I could not find the “stolen” bracelet behind, under, in her dresser/vanity/bathroom/bed/closet/night stands/carpet. If it was stolen why did she ask me to look for it in her room?
11:40-She has stopped crying and suggests we watch a movie. Good, I need to mentally check out for a minute.
11:45-PayPerView, or something, Evil Cabin Zombies in the Woods Dead 27
12:00am-Extensive commentary on the superior quality of acting begins and ensues for the duration of the movie but she says she has a knot in her back and wants me to massage it out, I accept this responsibility
12:30-Her shirt is off and she is dead set on me massaging out a very specific knot on her left shoulder which does not exist. Whatever. Apparently the special effects of the movie should have won a Tony Award or something, I don’t know.
1:00ish-Movie ends, my arms are getting sore, been kissing her sensually for a while, have not been able to get her to A. shut up B. turn over C. actively engage said kissies
1:03-Sequel to Monsters in the Aliens Woods Homiciding Stereotyped Sluts/Cast with Murder 41 begins. My lips are super tingly, from the $72 dollar lotion purchased at Macy’s 2012 Groundhog’s Day sale, that I’ve been using. Still massaging
1:40-Can’t feel arms, or lips, at all
2:00-She starts participating in the making out stuff and politely tells me that for religious reasons she is saving her virginity until marriage. I completely understand, when it comes to faith beliefs like that, I respect whatever choices you make, cool, no hassle, and we start fooling around.
2:30-I am excited, I’ve finished her off about 2 or 3 times, I feel like a champ, but I am still completely clothed and have not been touched in any way, shape, or form. As I am still being all sexy-like, I casually say, “What about me?”
2:31-She informs me that the bathroom is right over there and tells me I can take care of myself in the shower. I think I’ll just hold it
2:45-We’ve been silent, cuddling. Hey, this is nice, I love cuddling, she is comfy, and she’s not talking, this is good.
2:50am-Out of silence, she whispers, “I see demons”
2:52-“Yours are yellow”
2:52 and 12 seconds-I shit myself
3:00-I learn that my demons are angry and she is scared of them (don’t worry, I am too). She tells me that she has been exorcised on two occasions and it’s helped a lot. I don’t inquire as to how much, precisely.
3:05-I try to be supportive because this doesn’t seem like the kind of thing you just go around telling everybody, and more or less keep my mouth shut. God I want to try cocaine.
3:10-Sleep for her, another hour of being stiff as a board and scared before I pass out.
9:00-Her mother knocks and I, all 6’5 220lbs of me, attempts to hide under the blankets. Mother comes in and nonchalantly tells her that they are going to a friend’s house for dinner, asks her if the bearded guy under the blanket wants to come, I decline, I have to go return some overdue video tapes
9:15-I leave to return some overdue video tapes
No, we didn’t go on a second date, we had a pretty typical, anticlimactic dispersion from each other, and haven’t talked since, but it’s okay, because apparently my demons can keep me company.
This was on OKC, before i met my girlfriend i had talked with a girl and things were going well and we agreed to go on a date.Before the date these were the physical attributes i was lead to believe:
-she’s short (she always had a joke about how she was short she was)
-she had a couple of SMALL tattoos
-She was skinny/average weight
I go to pick her up, and the woman that answered the door was over 6 feet tall with full tattoo sleeves on both arms oh and she was bursting at the seams pregnant…
Because I was so taken back i only said “what the fuck?!?!”. She laughed and said “surprise!!” And her voice was really odd, i wouldn’t even know how to explain it. Before the anger of being lied to set in due to the absolute shock, she told me to come in. I sat on the couch and she yelled at her cats who were literally just laying there doing nothing. At this point the shock had worn off and i was thinking of an exit route…i mean this bitch was monstrously pregnant, and escaping on foot was my only chance. I pointed to the kitchen and asked about a piece hanging on the wall. She turned to look and i ran out the front door.
I’ll just keep them going…
I was on OKCupid when I got a message from a nice girl. She asked me how my day was and I responded. Being polite, I asked her how she was. After about 5 minutes, I get this 2 page response of how she was abused as a child, filled with many graphic details, and how she was going through a PTSD episode at the moment. She also listed all of the screaming night terrors that she had, had within the last month, and the horrific nightmares too. I wasn’t sure how to respond so I just told her that I hope that she would feel better but I wasn’t the match for her. She messaged me later telling me that no one ever wants damaged goods and that I was an ass. I don’t think that she took my rejection well…
I went out with a guy from OKC. It was going pretty well, we went out about 4 times and then decided for our next date we would try shrooms together because he has always wanted to try it. I’ve done it plenty of times and assumed we would just have fun walking around this parade, but they ended being VERY strong. He starts having a religious experience and writing about god in sharpie all over my bathroom walls while reality is shattering around me and I start bawling my eyes out. In the morning we painted my bathroom walls together. We never spoke again. Terrible experience but I’m pretty grateful for the story! TL;DR: We did shrooms and it got weird
Met a guy, who was 29, I was turning 21 at the time. we started talking and clicked pretty well. But over the course of a week, he managed to suggest moving in together, fall in love with me, and hint at adopting my daughter. He had been married before, and it had been four years since his divorce. I was the first girl he dated at that point
He didn’t do much talking in person, however. He just stared. Silently, for inappropriate amounts of time to the point I frequently became uncomfortable.
It was difficult to let him know I was no longer interested. But he took it surprisingly well. He didn’t try to continuously text or call me. He just let me be
Went out with another girl. She seemed pretty cool, but a little on the weird side. But she had good taste in music and was into all the same nerdy shit I was into, so I went with it.
We went on a few dates, made out once. I took her out to dinner and then we went to a gay bar for some karaoke. She left me to go chat with the boys at the bar while I sat alone at a table. They kept buying her drinks and she got more and more drunk while I sat there sipping my beer waiting for her to come back. Eventually a group of college-aged lesbians walk in and she immediately wonders over to them. They all go back outside for a cigarette. I sigh, and finish off my beer. My date and one of the other lesbians come back in and walk towards the back of the bar towards the bathrooms. They stop, and start making out against the wall.
I left, but my date followed me out. She cried and begged for me to not leave her there and that she was drunk and made out with strangers sometimes. All romantic feelings were crushed right then and there, but she and I still hung out as friends for about a month. Then one day she made the moves on me. I declined. She punched out a window and then ran out into the middle of the street and laid down. I drove away and cut off all contact.
We decided to meet for dinner at 7. he was an hour and 45 minutes late. His reason? He was at the gym doing leg day in the single squat rack in the gym, a personal trainer asked him to move so his client could work in, he refused and stood his ground in the squat rack, after 30 minutes of arguing gym management called the police to arbitrate the situation. And after all that he still had to finish his squats because priorities.
We clicked pretty well through messaging and quickly went to texting. We made plans to meet up within a week while he was supposedly traveling through town (he wasn’t – he travelled two hours to me and two hours back – I don’t like guys travelling to me just for a date). We plan to meet at a bookshop (easy to find). He looked nothing like his photos, so I didn’t even recognise him when he came up to me and asked about a book I was thumbing though. He had a really odd voice, too – like, it didn’t match him. Anyway, we decide to get dinner at a place down the street. We’re chatting (a little awkwardly on my part), he asked about a sign across the room, but I couldn’t read it from where we were because I didn’t have my glasses. I asked him what his were for, since we were on the topic, and he reveals they’re actually fake. This kind of weirds me out more, because I don’t really understand wearing frames just because. His “school” ring was also fake. And his humor was kind of unsettling. He kept slipping his hand onto my knee under the table and it creeped me out so much. That’s not something I’d be alright with even if I was into the guy. At this point I’m just trying to find ways to end this (he was actively trying to extend the date). Thank the gods, a friend called me, so I was able to escape with the excuse that something had come up with my roommate. Went to a friend’s place since I was uneasy to the point of not wanting to go straight home.
Ok.. now onto the success stories.
Reddit Online Dating Success Stories
These are pretty self explanatory. I enjoyed reading these because it is proof that even if you’ve had a tough time with online dating so far, there is comfort knowing that your match is out there. Just need to go on enough dates to find them. And *shameless plug* if you’re currently struggling to get dates online, feel free to either visit stepbystepdating.com or apply for our exclusive email list here for world-class dating advice.
Here are some of my favorite success stories:
I have a small following on the app Vine. A guy comments on one of my posts and I ignore him. He comments again and I continue the thread for a while and he jokingly asks me to be his long distance girlfriend. Once again, I do not respond. He messages me asking what he could do to get me to go out with him in a totally joking way. I was amused so I proposed something I thought no one would do for a random girl on the internet. I said he had to write and perform a rap about me in order to considered as a potential mate. I didn’t hear back from him so I assumed that was the end of that but three days later I received a YouTube link and sure enough there he was, rapping about me. I gave him my phone number, we started skyping, he bought a plane ticket and we spent 10 amazing days together. I’m saving up now to be with him in England for the summer. I really really fucking love that kid.
Met my husband on there and he’s freaking AMAZING. He is the most thoughtful, caring, and loving man I’ve ever encountered. We’ve been together for nearly 7 years now and are expecting our first child in a couple of weeks! I think in 7 years we’ve had like two fights. And I knew I wanted to be with him from date two. It was just a completely magical connection. I still feel so drawn to him too.
Met him on IRC for okcupid. Joked around a little. I had a crush on him because he was hysterical and kinda cynical about other people but not in a really bad way. We exchanged tumblrs and I went so far back into his. Then one night, I got drunk and hit on him on FB and told him his lips were really great. He asked if I was flirting with him and I said yes and a month or so later, we were making out in his bed for hours. We now live together.
Best: my amaaaazzzing SO. Had tindr for like a day and hit it off with some guy about 40 miles away. We had a lot of shared interest, ended up hanging out and now I can’t wait to spend my life with him! He’s incredibly smart, funny, compassionate and more than I could ask for.
Best: Ive shared this before on Reddit. Slightly related.
I ‘met’ a man in r/askmen. The topic was “Men, what’s your Type of woman?” One of the top comments was a set of kinda random and very specific characteristics, something like “chubby, submissive, fetishist sex positive makeup addict who likes drinking beer and eating Mexican food.” I remember thinking “WTF THATS ME”. I commented something smart ass like “you rang?” Not expecting anything really. PMs were exchanged, airline tickets were eventually purchased, some fantastically dirty drunken marathon sex was had. He is one of my dearest friends now.
My Fiance. End of March, slightly warm weather but still early spring. We met at a pizza place for dinner, he was running late, I was super early because I ran a few errands at the same time. I’m 6’2, and on the off chance he lied about his height, I wore 4 inch wedges. He didn’t lie about his height. We chatted through dinner, then went for a lovely walk. I’d had such a great time, I didn’t notice that when we hugged goodbye he had rested his arm on my butt (he had immediately apologized repeatedly), nor did I realize that our walking and talking had caused my wedges to open blisters in my feet.
Met my husband! He’s pretty cool. I’ll probably keep him around. 🙂 Seriously though, I didn’t get how well relationships could work until I met him.
My SO 🙂 he’s an amazing man. Upbeat, caring, protective, loving, masculine, yummy. I met him on OkCupid. He was out of my typical age range (he was 21, I’m 26) when it came to dating, but seeing his profile picture with him in his military uniform, and his stylish nerdy glasses, with his blue eyes. How he wrote pulled me in. He seemed practical, intelligent, cared about his fellow man. We talked online for about a week before we decided to meet up. Typically I met all the guys I dated at the same place, at night. But he suggested coffee and we made it a day-date. We met at Starbucks, I was already there and I saw him enter the building, before he pulled the door open we caught eyes. I just always remember that moment. He came in, sat down, and we just… I don’t know. Clicked. Instantly. Like we’d known each other forever. Tomorrow will be 3 months we’ve been together and we basically live together. He’s moving in to my apartment in April.
A lot of great stories here, both horror & success.
But that’s not all Reddit gave us.
Redditors also gave us their best tips when it came to online dating.
Best Reddit Online Dating Tips
Many Redditors have spent time dropping their best pieces of wisdom when it comes to online dating. Here are some of my favorite:
Take the time to get high quality pictures for your profile. They matter. And get someone to take a picture with you in front of dog. That will skyrocket your results.
Send an opener that stands out from the crowd.
Don’t be afraid to speak your truth and be polarizing.
Emotionally engaging and playful beats logic and interview-style every time.
Don’t be afraid to respectfully disagree with your dates opinions while also stating your case
Teasing is flirting. Do it a lot.
Get good at telling stories in-person and over text.
Use meme’s and GIFs to make your texts funner / more interesting.
And many more.
What Are The Best dating sites, Reddit?
Here’s my experience. Tinder is the younger crowd. Early 20s. Okcupid has most of the crazies. Bumble lies to you and shows you the hottest people that will never swipe on you, but I’ve found the best quality women on bumble when they do match.
To get the most out of these apps you have to have good pictures. You have to be in shape, clean shaven or nicely kept beard, interesting job, good fashion, max of one selfie, and you have to killer texting game. Experiment with all these variables until you get a stable number of matches.
In person may seem more daunting because of approach but it yields better results when you get your shit together. Everything I mention takes time and patience.
I’ve met my most recent ex off of bumble and we were happily together for a little under 3 years, since the break up I’ve had the best luck with Hinge
Personal favourite is Coffee Meets Bagel. The experience is different for men and women, but still mutually beneficial. It slows you down to get a good quality match who you know isn’t talking to hundreds of other folks. The quality of the profiles is much higher.
Here’s a bit of list depending on what you’re looking for and their claim to fame and history. Just compiled it for you for some more ideas.
Match.com Launched 1994 (app launched in 2010) Matches you with singles who are looking for a relationship, not hook-ups.
eHarmony Launched 2000 (app launched in 2010) Matches you with individuals you might have chemistry with based on a compatibility questionnaire.
Christian Mingle Launched 2001 (app launched in 2014) Matches you with Christians seeking a “God-centred” relationship.
JSwipe (launched 2014) Or JDate (launched 1997) Matches you with Jews
PlentyOfFish Launched 2003 (app launched in 2010) Matches you with People based on your answers to its chemistry test.
OKCupid Launched 2004 (app launched in 2009) Matches you with people with similar personalities and interests, based on questions about your passions and deal-breakers.
Badoo Launched 2006 Matches you with people you’ve indicated you’ve liked via a heart icon in response to name, age and how many interests you have in common, among other features.
Grindr Launched 2009 Matches you with gay, bi, trans and queer people in the area.
Hinge Launched 2012 Matches you with people the app suggests based on profiles you’ve liked, among other features.
Tinder Launched 2012 Matches you with anyone you find attractive enough.
Coffee Meets Bagel Launched 2012 Matches you with people the app’s algorithm thinks you might be interested in.
Her Launched 2013 Matches you with lesbian, queer, bisexual and bi-curious women.
Down Launched 2013 Matches you with people looking for casual relationships.
Happn Launched 2014 Matches you with people you’ve crossed paths with using geolocation data.
Bumble Launched 2014 Matches you with people in the area. For heterosexual matches, women have to make the first move.
Feeld Launched 2014 Matches you with people interested in kink, polyamory and alternative sexual preferences.
Clover Launched 2014 Matches you with people who give attractive answers to a game of 20 Questions based on personality traits.
Pure Launched 2014 Matches you with anyone who is interested in you, but you only have an hour to communicate before the user’s profile and all communication vanishes from your inbox.
The League Launched 2015 Matches you with other members based on career status, but the app only accepts 10 to 20 per cent of people who sign up.
Tastebuds Launched 2015 Matches you with people who share your tastes in music.
Hater Launched 2016 Matches you with people who despise the same things you do.
Sapio Launched 2016 Matches you with people with your desired level of intelligence.
Wingman Launched 2017 Matches you with people your friends have vetted.
Zoe Launched 2017 Matches you with lesbian, queer and bisexual women.
Dig Launched 2018 Matches you with fellow dog lovers.
Dine launched 2017 Matches you on dinner dates
I had better dates with coffee meets bagel. Currently with this guy, absolutely the best. I didn’t think we’d have anything in common, turns out we have similar interests and we’ve been dating now for 4 months. Best of luck!
Is Online Dating Worth it, Reddit?
Yes, to a degree. It’s by no means a perfect solution..but as an adult, professional, working man with a strict no-office-dating rule and limited free time to “get out there”, it really does help.
You get to examine the profile, the photos, etc, and decide if based on initial attraction it is worth reaching out. If it is, and it goes well, it’s great. No friend zoned head games that can happen with non-internet meetings. You can also tell MORE about the person in several ways: can they spell? Are they articulate? Can they write? This indicates intelligence, wit, and hopefully a lack of cliches and a wealth of original thought. Are they taking car or bathroom selfies? Lifestyle selfies? Is the smile genuine or forced? Sometimes in other meetings these kind of things take too long to emerge, but with internet dating you get hints right away.
I know more than one married couple that met via internet dating. So it works sometimes.
But yes, you do have to weed through a lot of chaff before you get to the wheat.
Is it worth it for me? Yes, when I’m on it. Over the past 4 years, I’ve been on and off with it, but it has helped me out with confidence and gauge where I am looks-wise. I’ve also made some decent friends along the way and have had my share of weirdos too.
I’d say in that time, I’ve dated close to ~35 women with majority being one off coffee dates. In hindsight, I can only say about 2-3 of them were relationship-material for myself. In that sense, I’ve gotten pretty adept at just asking for the first date and being a guy that was always shy, it has helped.
Negatively, as a guy, it’s a decent $$ investment and, if you do it enough, it adds up. Since I usually pick up the first date, I can gauge where there at. Do they offer to split? Reasonable ordering? Another negative (for me at least), is the fetisization of my ethnicity. I’m African American and I can’t tell you how many Caucasian women sought me out for that and I used to subletely allude to it and they in someway or the other, “confessed” it. Definitely seemed some like the idea of dating one, but not necessarily seriously or even semi-seriously.
Right now, I’m taking a break to focus on school and any date I get at the moment is either through casual social media, friends, or from a night out.
For tinder especially, I don’t see a point in not doing it. I don’t read any profile or any of that shit. I just swipe right on everyone, and superlike the girl showing the most cleavage daily. It takes literally less than 2 minutes. If I match with someone I don’t find attractive, unmatch. If I like the girl, I send a message and see what’s what. 9/10 times they ghost, but whatever, you then know they’re horrible human beings and move on.
Just like anything there are success and failures. The way I look at it the successes are great and the failures always teach you something about yourself. But yeah I meet how women and take them to do things I myself find fun. That makes it worth it to me. Rarely does it go anywhere emotionally but you meet cool people and sometimes get laid.
You do actually have to put in some effort. Write a decent bio that makes you sound interesting, use good quality pictures that show your face and body, don’t act thirsty you have to get a conversation to flow before asking to meet up. It’s really simple stuff but so many people just punt and don’t understand why it doesn’t pan out for them.
Absolutely worth the effort. I got a lot of experience and feedback in how I present myself as well as experience with dating itself. Having gone into online dating without a lot of experience and most of them bad, using it to find my way was absolutely worth it and is up there with one of the better decisions of my life.
I’ve found it worthwhile, but as with all things, you have to put the work in. I’ve found most people who are constantly complaining about online dating are the ones who are expecting the guy/girl of their dreams to appear out of the ether and beg them for a date.
Just like real world dating, you have to put yourself out there, accept that a lot of people will turn you down/not even bother to respond. You’ve also got to be realistic. I’m a pretty average looking guy in a pretty average career. I’m not expecting to get millionaire supermodels fawning over me
I’m polyamorous. Polyamory is not uncommon, but it’s only a small portion of the population right now. So you can imagine it’s not especially easy to find people who are compatible.
Yet, I’ve had plenty of luck online. Of the three girls I’m with now, two of them I found on OkCupid (which honestly used to be much better, but is still pretty good, and also thankfully free). One of those relationships has lasted over a half a decade so far, and is still going strong. I’ve had a good amount of success with it in the past too.
So yeah, online dating is absolutely worth it.
So there you have it. Reddit has spoken. And the general consensus is that yes, online dating is worth it. You just need to learn the basics and apply yourself, just like anything else in life.
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